Monday, 16 January 2017

Bloggers I Loved In 2016



The thing with blogging when you're also a busy mum of 3, is that you don't get the time you'd like to spend chatting with those amazing blogging friends you've made...you don't get to send as many PMs, have as many group chats, join in as many (or any!) Twitter chats...in fact to be honest it often takes me 2 or 3 days if not more to even reply to a PM on social media these days.

I used to joke that a text could take me a week to reply to so if my "real life" friends and family wanted an answer from me, they'd be better off sending me a Facebook message...but now its rare that I respond to those within the first 48 hours either!

And something that really bothers me most, is that I feel I never support other bloggers in the way I want to anymore.

I so rarely have the time free to sit and just read blog posts anymore, and if I do i'm usually doing it on my phone which makes leaving a comment really difficult to do...but then I know how much a comment can mean when you've spent hours slogging away at crafting your post, and it makes me feel really rubbish when I read and run.

I hardly ever have chance to sit and watch YouTube videos from my friends or my favourite vloggers.

I hardly ever get the chance to look at their Twitter timelines and retweet any of their stuff.

I hardly ever get a moment to scroll through Instagram and appreciate their beautiful photos, and even when I do there's usually a child climbing on my head so I usually quickly press the heart button and that's it...

And it just BOTHERS me.


I don't want to be that person - that blogger that never takes the time to reply to her own comments let alones leaves any for anybody else ( I can't even remember the last time I replied to my comments, which just sucks because comments literally make my day)

The blogger who never returns the favour, the blogger who follows you on Instagram but never interacts with your feed, the one who doesn't know what you blogged about last month when you reference it even though they tell you they love your blog!

... the one who is just getting completely and utterly left behind and failing miserably at keeping up.

I don't want to be that person....but, I'm sure that most of us feel the same way.

It can't just be me?!

Surely I'm not the only one who's own blog and own children burn up every bit of her time and energy, and leave her without a spare moment to spend being the super supportive, encouraging blogging friend she wants to be?!

So I'm admitting it...I suck at being a good blog friend.


I suck at being a good blog supporter.

But in an effort to kind of apologise for how sucky I can be at this, and how much I do admire so many of you...how much bloggers and content creators inspire and educate me on a daily basis, I wanted to create a little post just to share some of the ones I have really enjoyed over the past year.

I'd love to be able to include links to individual posts for each one of course, but as is always the case with me...the kids are about to wake up and I'm running out of work time!

But here are a few stand out favourite posts I've read from 2016,  I meant to do some Facebook shout outs for them toward the end of the year and completely forgot...

What To Do When Your Child Hates School by Five Little Doves really struck a chord with me, as I know what it's like to experience that first hand and I dread going through it with my own children.

Let's Talk About The Truth from Amy Treasure was by far the most interesting and emotional blog post I think I have ever read, it is the one which comes straight to my mind whenever I'm asked "But why does blogging matter?"... real voices like Amy's sharing real stories is, to me, what it's all about.

Saying Goodbye To The Idea Of A Girl from Sorry About The Mess was a touching post and one that really resonated me as a fellow mum of 3 little boys.

And this blog on the very taboo subject of Gender Disappointment from Dolly Dowsie was another I could really relate to on a personal level...Fiona has such a way of putting her thoughts and emotions across into her blog through both her words and her photography.

Please take a look through this list of blogs I have loved this year if you get a chance...these people are some of the most talented, creative, inspiring and funny people I have come across in my four years in the blogosphere and I cannot recommend them highly enough.

My Tribe

First up, and as much as I hate the word "Tribe" that is what these people are for me...a group of people who are supportive and helpful, and who I can go to for advice or just friendship in times of need. People I would be lost without.


Those Who Inspire Me










Those Who Make Me Howl With Laughter




Those Who's Blogs I Just Love Because They're Cozy & Comfortable, Like Curling Up With A Favourite Magazine...




This list is by no means exhaustive, I know there are hundreds of blogs I love that I have accidentally neglected to mention so I am sure there will be a part two at some point!

I hope you find some new reads from this list, and I would LOVE to hear your own recommendations for favourite blogs to read as I love finding new ones!

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13 comments

  1. Hayley you just summed up exactly how I've been feeling lately! My time to read other peoples blogs used to be when Lily was at nursery and ever since having Archer I've barely had chance to even get my own posts out there never mind comment on other peoples. It does make you feel so shitty and un-supportive doesn't it, even though I guess 99% of us with little ones are in the same boat and we all understand! Thanks for the recs, theres a fair few on there I've not seen before and since I'm determined to start getting Archer into a better nap routine hopefully I'll have time to read again when the little monkey starts to sleep! x

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  2. You're so not alone with feeling like you don't have enough time to support fellow blogging friends as much as you like. I wish I had more time for it myself. I see so much great content from fellow vloggers and bloggers that I just wish I had more time to comment on and share as I know how much it means. I'm trying this year to make more time out of my day for it.

    Thanks so much for including me in this lovely, it's been so lovely to have you as a close blogging friend for the past 4 years. I love knowing I can log on and have a chat and you just get it. I seriously mean that. xx

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  3. Thank you so much for including me in this, Hayley - what a lovely surprise to stumble on just as I was catching up with your blog. Totally with you on not having the time I'd like to be a supportive blogger - definitely something I'm going to work on this year and I'd love to do a similar list like you've done here. Off to read some of these posts now.

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  4. I totally get this, if I just had a few extra hours a day to be that extra supportive blogger! I read more blogs that I comment on, as that just adds to the little time I have. But I going to try and at least hit the share button more on posts that I read this year. Thank you so much for including me, that is so lovely of you. You are more supportive than you give yourself credit for xx

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  5. Oh Hayley this is so lovely of you thank you ever so much. You were one of the first parenting bloggers I started reading years ago. I am the same as you and so often don’t comment as reading on my phone but I am reading! Thank you again I’m so flattered xx

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  6. I can really relate, sweetie. I also wish I had more time to spend reading blogs I love or watching YouTube videos, but at the same time, life needs to be lived, he he! This is a huge list of blogs, I'm going to pick 3 randomly now that I haven't read before and have a peep before I get to work. x

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  7. Thank you so much for the mention lovely, you're very kind. You've mentioned some great blogs here and I'll be checking out the rest I haven't yet read on your recommendation :) x

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  8. Thank you so much for including me in this line up! I don't feel worthy amongst such amazing blogger but it has made my day!!! I'll be checking out those I haven't read before, and I completely relate to not getting the time to read other blogs, it's definitely something I want to do more of this year. Xxx

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  9. Awww I'm really honoured to be featured in this Hayley. I love your blog so it really means a lot. Thanks xxxx

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  10. Yay! Thanks so much for the inclusion lovely! It's amazing!!! xxx

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  11. What a lovely selection and thanks for including me! xxx

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  12. Oh lovely. I can't believe I missed this. Thank you so much for including me. I feel completely honoured. Especially as you are one of my favourite bloggers too. And I always feel that I don't give enough back as a blogger. But it is so hard and you can't do everything. Hugs Lucy xxxx

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