Sunday, 18 September 2016

40 Things Before 40

In just 2 days time, I will be turning 35.

You have no idea (Well, unless you're a similar age or above yourself I guess...) how bizarre that feels to say.

I often see people in their 20s talking about the approach to turning 30 and how far away it still is for them, well I hate to be the bearer of bad news - but it's not as far away as you think you know! Infact, I would SWEAR blind that I only turned 21 a few years ago...

Time flies past at a pretty scary speed, and to think  that 21st birthday party of mine (the one where I got way too drunk after having Stella Artois races with my Uncle and cousins, beating them all and promptly throwing up on my boyfriend's shoe and falling head first into a bush...) was now 14 years ago is CRAZY!

And the thing know how, when you're in your 20s, you think that something will just happen and you'll suddenly start to feel like a grown up when you're in your 30s...that you'll be more mature somehow, that your thoughts and mind will change and you'll just know more, be wiser and so on....that you will somehow FEEL your age? won't!

It just doesn't happen.

I feel no different now than I did when I was 21. My head is just the same, and just as immature, and just as clueless.

Infact it scares me a bit to think back to being a child, and always assuming that my parents were completely clued up on life and always had all the answers coz they were GROWN UPS...because they didn't really, just like I don't now. Terrifying.

Anyway...back to the point of my post...

Turning 35 can either be a bit depressing because its halfway to 40, or it can be exciting because I'm halfway to 40 (they say that's when life begins, after all!) - so I opted for the latter.

And because 40 really does feel like a proper BONA FIDE ADULT age (I'm aware that all of the 40-somethings will be shaking their heads at me now and thinking that they still feel 21 in their heads too!) - I feel the need to spend the rest of my 30s doing all of the things that I always think "I'd love to do day".

Because let's face it...what is "one day"?! When is that exactly?! If I carry on saying "I'll do that one day" forever, then the day will never come and I'm so not ok with that.

THESE are the "one days"...I'm living them, and if there are things I want to do "one day" then I need to be doing them....

So...these next 5 years are going to be made up of all of those "one day" things I want to do.

I've put together a list of 40 Things To Do Before I Turn 40 and I am determined to cross them all off!

I started this list 6 months ago, and I am pleased to have already ticked off some...

I have kept it to things that I can reasonably achieve, no plans to tour the world and visit 20 countries because in reality I wouldn't be able to afford that....this list is full of achievable things...and I plan and hope to achieve every single one of them.

40 Things Before I Turn 40

1) Get To A Dress Size I Feel Comfortable With (2 sizes down so far since starting the list, about 2 or 3 sizes to go)

2) Go to an 80's concert (If Jason Donovan is there, bonus!)

3) Watch "The Book Of Mormon" at the theatre

4) Watch "Wicked" in the West End

5) Go To Disneyland Paris with the Kids for Halloween

6) Visit New York City

7) Go On A Royal Caribbean Cruise With The Kids (Cruise booked since starting the list!)

8) Go On A Disney Cruise 

9) Go To Italy and eat proper Italian pasta (Italy is one of our stops on the cruise!)

10) Learn to drive

11) Go to Ireland

12) Get married and have my dream wedding

13) Have a fourth child

14) Buy our own home

15) Get a small tattoo (probably the kids names)

16) Get something (Anything!) published in print

17) Move even closer to the sea

18) Win a blog award!!!

19) Do a degree or qualification in writing/journalism or possibly teaching

20) Get veneers

21) See Madonna in concert

22) Learn to play Piano

23) Own a pet and learn to love it (I'm so not an animal person but I want to change that!)

24) Swim with or touch a dolphin

25) Cuddle (or at least stroke) a monkey

26) Eat at a Michelin starred restaurant

27) Have a whole night away on my own somewhere (Spa or retreat maybe?!)

28) Go on our a tour of Buckingham palace

29) Join an amateur dramatics group/be in a play

30) Be a bloggers keynote speaker at an event

31) Try past life regression

32) Take a cookery class

32) Take a photography course

33) Investigate my blood line/genealogy and research my family tree

34) Write a book

35) Dye my hair an unnatural colour and get a dramatic hair cut

36) Do a make up and/or hairdressing course

37) Overcome a fear

38) Learn to manage my anxiety and panic attacks more

39) Go to Lapland with the kids

40) Have a big party to celebrate my 40th!!

So there we have it! Now let's start crossing things off!

What would be on your own list?! I'd love to hear your ideas!

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  1. It was my 35th last week and I actually did the same thing. 4,5,26 & 34 are all my list too! I hope you get to do them all and have a fab 40th build up.

  2. I'm 37 in a couple of months....
    Quite a few things on your list are on mine too....I hope you get to do everything you have mentioned!

  3. Fantastic list! I'm 38 so I totally get this. I still feel like I'm 16 and can't believe I'm a mom and an "adult". You've made me think about starting a similar list. The only problem is I'm only 1.5 years away! I hope you're able to accomplish all of these in the next few years. #KCACOLS

    Nicole | The Professional Mom Project

  4. Totally agree with never actually feeling your own age. I'm 26 but in my head I'm still 18 haha. This birthday everyone made so many comments about now being on the wrong side of my 20s and approaching my 30s blah's just a number! I love your list, some great things on there! (Ps that 'mother' jumper is awesome!) #Sundaybest

  5. I'm just behind you, I should do this! I definitely want to do another cruise, I would love to try past life regression! #sundaybest

  6. Some intersesting ideas here #SundayBest

  7. This is a brilliant list. I hope you achieve it all. Some of these are on my own list, such as Italy, Ireland and New York.

  8. Happy birthday! I hope you are celebrating in true mum style, ie being allowed a lie in while everyone screams and makes mess downstairs and having a cold crap cup of tea brought to you in bed.

    Some great things on the list. Maybe we can go and see Jason together. I'll give you ten good reasons.... #KCACOLS

  9. fabulous list - a lot of things similar to mine. I'd love a disney cruise and to go to Lapland, though I'd to be a keynote speaker at anything lol. Good luck! x #KCACOLS

  10. What a list - I've done a few already although I turned 36 this year (shhhh). Good luck!!!! #KCACOLS (Rainbowsaretoobeautiful)

  11. I love this! You've just provided me with some great ideas! I still have a decade to go, but you are right, time flies away very very fast. Visiting places abroad is probably the best we could all do. Well, I'm still struggling with #10. :D #SharingtheBlogLove

  12. Aw what a lovely list my love. I just loved it! time certainly flies, and I certainly love lists they are great way to make and set goals. xx

  13. I am 38 years old in 2 weeks time. I. Can. Not. Believe. It. I will be 40 in 2 years. I certainly don't feel old enough in my 40's. Especially as I spent most of my 20's in the depth of depression. I really need to write a similar list for the next two years. But I really don't know what would be on it. Good luck ticking things off yur list lovely. Hugs Lucy xxxx

  14. Definily go see Wicked it's amazing! I really don't know what I'd put on mine. More children, buy a house, go on a really amazing family holiday.

    I hope you have fun crossing these off your list!


  15. I'm 35 as well...will be writing my list this week so thank you :) I have to say, I'm starting to feel more grown up now and actually enjoy being in my 30s. Never thought I'd say that...

  16. Oh I love this! I can relate to so many things on your list. I'd also love to go on a spa break on my own, tis the dream! I'm 30 next year and still feel 18. My nan whose 82 said she still feels like she's in her 20's so you're right it never changes! x #SundayBest

  17. I've done a few on your list, I think that they are all achievable for sure. You've got me thinking now what would be on my list. Thanks for hosting! #SundayBest

  18. There are some great things on your list. I'm 37 and there is so much I would like to do. Like you, going to New York is one of them.

  19. I turned 40 in July and I did have a fab party to celebrate although most pole I know called it the birthday that went for a month and I was spoiled by many dinner parties and a holiday too. But for my party I had women only, all my besets friends. I kicked out hubby, the kids and the dog and brought loads of expensive champagne and had cheese and wine! We danced, we sang, and we went a little (or lot) nuts. You know what 40 is not as scary as it seems, in fact I think the build up is worse. The number does feel oldish to say, but really you don't feel it. I think for me it wasn't about the things or places I had or visited before 40 it was who I am! I am so comfortable now in my own skin, I am more confident and less stressed than ever before and to me that means more than overseas trips or a weight goal if that makes sense? Enjoy 35! #sundaybest

  20. Love your list. What a great idea to have some goals to achieve. I turned 40 last year and I'm now 41...I dreaded the big 40 but now it's done and dusted I'm quite content with my age! #sundaybest

  21. I didn't realise you are actually older than me by 3 years. I thought you were in your 20s. Love your list and would like to do a few of those too especially Lapland and Disney at Halloween and .... #SundayBest

  22. I'm a little behind you, but not much! I love this idea, especially giving yourself a reasonable amount of time to achieve everything - means you can be a bit more ambitious with some of the things! I really want to do a Florida trip to Disney before Max is too old to appreciate it (will need to convince my husband though), and I'd love to take him to Lapland too. I'm going to have a good think about some more though - I love to tick off a list! Thanks so much for joining us again at #SharingtheBlogLove

  23. Ohhh fab! That's a lot of things you best get saving the Pennies!! Can I come to New York with you?!?

  24. I loved that part about being a child and believing that parents know it all. I feel the same way. I used to think that when I'm grown up I would know it all just like them. Now I see that we're all just bluffing. And we're the ones running things. Scary! #KCACOLS

  25. I love a good list! I really want to go to NYC and take my girls to disneyland florida while they still believe in princesses. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

  26. Oh I love this idea! I so need to do this but I only have 18months left before the big 4 0 so I better get a move on! Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday x

  27. My mother turned 90 recently. On her previous birthday, when we asked her how old she thought she was she said 28. So, we decided she was obviously 29 this year. Growing up and being mature is soo over-rated. And there's too much fun to be had to be too mature.

  28. I've just started writing a 30 before 30 list and you've given me some inspiration! x #KCACOLS

  29. I've got a few on your list ticked, but so many that I haven't! I can't believe you can't drive, I can't imagine getting around with the kids without my car!x

  30. I still want to do the Buckingham Palace tour, come with me lol x


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