"When
you get your period for the first time, you have to catch it in a milk bottle
and take it to the Drs so they can check it for you"
Those
were the first words I ever heard about menstruation, spoken by a girl in my
class named Leah....to be totally honest, most of my "Birds &
Bees" information came from Leah as my mum was never really a fan of
talking about that kind of stuff....I remember panicking for months about how
exactly I was going to manage to catch it in a milk bottle and what the Dr
would even do with it anyway, when finally one evening it all became too much
and my Mum found me crying in the bathroom with worry about it all...she
finally sat me down and told me all about what to expect from my first period.
It
was lucky she did as only a few months later, at the age of 11 whilst still in
primary school - it arrived.
And
for a while there wasn't much to it...it lasted a little longer than the 3 days
my Mum had told me to expect, and the tummy cramps were a little more intense
than I had expected sometimes...but it was manageable.
But
over the years, things changed and by the time I was 16 I had come to absolutely
DREAD that time of the month.
I
remember turning down a trip to the swimming pool with friends because I was on
my period, and them asking why I couldn't just wear a tampon and go anyway like
they did...I knew I couldn't do that. My periods were far too heavy for
that...in fact I often had to double on the thickest sanitary towels available
just to be able to make it through a lecture at college without embarrassment.
Everywhere
I went I would always have to ask someone to check my skirt in case anything
had leaked through, I always felt worried that I was going to flood through my
sanitary protection and be humiliated.
And
once or twice it almost happened, too...I took to carrying spare pairs of
underwear in my handbag just in case.
When
it came time to go on a long awaited beach holiday to Venezuela, I was
devastated when I realised the trip coincided with when my period was due and I
knew I wouldn't be able to wear my pretty bikinis or enjoy the holiday
properly...so for the first time, I took myself off to my GP to see if there
was anything they recommend to help with my heavy and painful periods.
He
advised me to take a kind of medication that would temporarily delay the
arrival of my period...so I did. And although it made me bloated and uncomfortable,
it kept my period at bay that month...but the following month I paid for it! I
had the heaviest and most excruciatingly painful period I've ever had, I
remember crawling around on all fours in tears at one point because I was in
such agony I couldn't even stand. I never dared to take that medication again
and since then I've suffered on with heavy and painful periods in silence.
The
side effects were also hard to deal with - I'd suffer with cramps so painful
that they would make me yelp, terrible headaches, blurred vision, acne, nausea
and extreme mood swings every single time my period arrived which made it hard
to go to college and later to work. I found myself calling in sick once a
month...and of course it was never long before those continued monthly absences
resulted in disciplinary action and lost jobs.
But
for some reason, I was always too embarrassed to talk about it - I could tell
that my employers thought my excuse of heavy painful periods wasn't a good
enough reason to justify an absence, and I guess that made me feel as though I
just wasn't being tough enough - that everybody else manages to just deal with
that time of the month and get on with life, so I should be trying harder to do
the same.
Even
now I know to avoid the swimming pool and avoid arranging any big days out at
that time of the month because that worry still remains....that my periods are
just too heavy to trust the sanitary protection. And I know that for a week of
every month, I'll feel sick and headachey, and generally exhausted.
Whenever
I have tried to bring it up with my GP, I've been brushed off completely - I'm
told its just "one of those things" and "the luck of the
draw".
It
was only recently that I discovered that actually heavy periods affect around 1
in 5 women, and this is actually a recognised medical condition. And I
certainly did not know that there are a range of treatment options available.
That
is why I am taking part in the Am I Number 5? campaign to highlight the
condition and the treatment options available...to enable more women like me to
stop living their lives for only 3 weeks of every month, and claim that fourth
week back.
If
you suffer with heavy periods too or know somebody who does, please visit www.wearwhiteagain.co.uk to find
out more about the condition and treatment options available.
And
if you'd like to join in with the campaign to raise awareness of this
condition, just share a snap on social media of your painted fingernails...with
1 nail painted in a different colour to represent the 1 in 5 women affected by
heavy periods.
I’m working with Hologic and BritMums to promote the Am I Number 5? campaign. Visit www.wearwhiteagain.co.uk for more information and advice
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