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Friday, 16 October 2015

My Surprise 3rd Pregnancy - 21 Weeks Along, The Story So Far!

Baby Number 3

So you may have caught my announcement a couple of days ago that we are expecting baby number 3 in February!

Judging by the comments I received on social media, a lot of people were pretty surprised by the news...let me just assure you there was NOBODY more surprised than me by this news! ;)

Those of you who have had children before might be aware that they often warn you when you're leaving hospital with your baby that you'll be super-fertile for a while after giving birth...well I'll tell you something....they're not joking!!!

This baby was conceived very much by accident when Noah was just 6 weeks old! I was already back on the pill at the time and had been put on a course of antiobiotics to treat an infection, nobody warned me that these would interfere with the pill and I never even thought about it...

5 weeks later, I was sitting in our living room one evening when I was suddenly hit with a very familiar scent....it's a phantom smell that I find hard to describe and all I know is that I smell this every time I am pregnant ...as soon as I breathed that scent in that evening, I KNEW.

But I tried to tell myself it was just one of those things, probably my body re-adjusting after having Noah...but that I'd take a test to be sure because after all, my menstrual cycle hadn't returned to normal yet after Noah's arrival so it was hard to be sure of anything!

So...I took a test, fully expecting a negative result...I almost collapsed when I saw the positive line come up.

I told Jon, and he insisted it must be a faulty test - so he went out to the shops for more while I sat and panicked about the result - when he came back and we took another test, sure enough it was positive.

We were both in shock - there we were with a brand new baby, suddenly expecting again!!! What on earth...?!!

Complications

The shock soon turned into panic when I started experiencing sharp shooting pains in my left side, and ended up in A & E - early scans showed the little heartbeat in the right place and everything looking normal, but the Drs were concerned about how quickly the pregnancy had occurred after Noah's birth - I have an autoimmune disease called Graves disease which can lead to complications in pregnancy and birth and thyroid levels can be difficult to control after giving birth so they were concerned about me falling pregnant again so soon - I was also still battling an infected c section scar from Noah's birth and there was more concern about this and the strain a pregnancy might put on it so quickly, as the recommended wait between c sections is 2 years to allow your body to fully heal.

It was a long few weeks of waiting for answers, but after speaking with consultants for second opinions we were eventually given the all clear and told it was deemed safe to continue with the pregnancy.

We decided that, with Noah being so young, we wanted to just keep it between ourselves for a while - it may sound a bit silly but I couldn't help feeling sort of guilty that Noah wasn't getting any time to be the baby of the family, and I wanted him to just have some time in the limelight...I didn't want anybody to know about the new baby at his Christening as I wanted the focus firmly on HIM and HIS day, and my original plan was to let his First Christmas come and go before I announced the pregnancy.

Obviously as time went on this became increasingly harder - I was already showing, and I was bursting to talk about the pregnancy! - and so I decided I couldn't possibly wait until after Christmas to announce it, when there would only be 8 weeks left before the birth! 

Instead we decided to wait until after the 20 week scan - which we had last week, and everything looked healthy and normal.

So here we are! That brings us up to date.

The Symptoms So Far

Baby Number 3


The pregnancy so far has been so very different to the last two in a lot of ways - perhaps its because nobody has really known about it so I've not talked about it much, but it's been so easy this time to forget that I'm pregnant at all.

I'm amazed to not have experienced ANY movement at all so far - with Tyne and Noah I had already felt lots of movement by this point so it certainly seems odd not to be feeling anything - but everything looked normal at the scan and baby was wriggling away, so I guess the movements are just gentle ones that I can't feel yet!

Anyone who followed my last two pregnancies will know that I suffered terribly with extreme sickness both times - with Tyne it lasted until 28 weeks and with Noah until 17 weeks - this time I had some nausea and sickness in the very beginning but nowhere near as extreme and it was completely gone by 12 weeks! 

I haven't really had any other symptoms either - no headaches, no sore boobs, no rashes, none of the things I usually experience in pregnancy - the only symptoms I've had so far have been very sore feet and bad hip pain, but otherwise it's been completely symptomless!

Because of my last two c-sections births and how soon after Noah this pregnancy has come about, I have to be scheduled for an early c section delivery this time to ensure that I don't go into labour as that could potentially cause my previous scar to rupture - baby's due date is February 25th so the hospital have suggested I will most likely to be scheduled in to give birth around February 19th.

So there we have it - the story of my surprise 3rd pregnancy so far!

I'm not going to lie, the prospect of having 3 kids under 3 is a very daunting one and one I am definitely nervous about - I'd love to hear from anyone out there who experienced this or a close age gap between babies (Noah will be 10 and a half months when this baby arrives!) - please tell me it's not so bad?!

So...I'll be back next week to talk about finding out the gender of the baby and begin yet another baby countdown with bump watches and all! Until then...thanks for reading!

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27 comments:

  1. I can't comment on small age gaps as I have 2 years between each of mine, I just wanted to say congratulations :) xx

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  2. Wow what a shock that must have been. My third was a total shock too as I had a 5 month old and had just weeks before had surgery to remove my gallbladder which like you had stopped my pill working. I felt guilty too that my middle child would not get attention etc for long with a baby arriving a few weeks after her first birthday. I totally found that pregnancy was so easy so soon after having another and did not feel at all pregnant either my birth was easy & super quick too. Things will be fine with 3 under 3 it can be crazy at times having 2 so close together but it's also easier in some ways as they have similar routines and needs. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy , can't wait to find out baby's gender xx

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    1. Wow, what a shock!! I never thought about the pregnancy maybe being easier coz its closer to the last one, I guess my body hasn't had much time to adjust to not being pregnant so maybe thats why its coping better this time! xx

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  3. I missed your announcement, CONGRATULATIONS! I cant wait for gender reveal! But if your boys are anything to go by the new addition will be a cutie no matter the gender :) xx

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  4. Congratulations! 3 under 3 sounds like hard work but a lot of fun!! Looking forward to following your journey! x

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  5. Aaw Hayley I missed your announcement. Congratulations lovely. So glad you are feeling better this time xx

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  6. Wow how amazing but scary that must have been! I'm in a pregnancy group with a lady who has 3 under 2.5 and she says it's not that bad really! You'll be great :). Can't wait to hear the gender xx

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    1. Oh thats good to hear!!! :) Fingers crossed I wont struggle too much! xx

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  7. Congratulations! I hope the rest of this pregnancy goes well x

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  8. Congratulations again hun! 3 under 3 is going to be a handful until you find your balance, and then you'll be fine I'm sure of it. It must of all been such a shock for you. xx
    Steph | www.raisingemily.net

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  9. Oh my goodness I missed this but huge congratulations! I'm 13 weeks with baby 2 and will have 21 months between them. Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy, I'll keep up with your updates!xx

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  10. Oh I can't believe I missed your news. I get your worries but this is THE best news. So very exciting. Eeeeeeeeekkkkkk can't wait to follow this next one with you. Big hugs xx

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  11. Oh my goodness, super exciting news!! And having two kids already, I can imagine how slightly terrified I'd feel if I was expecting number three. It will be an amazing journey! There's a fab blog, Little Baby Garvin, written by a lady in exactly the same position. She has three beautiful girls and blogs about her full on life. Can't wait to share your journey through your blog! Lots of love and luck! Xxx

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  12. Huge Congratulations. You'll cope, you'll have too! ;) x

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  13. Big congratulations hun! That was such a cute way to announce your pregnancy. I think we'd definitely wait until I was further along to tell people next time. It felt like I was talking about being pregnant forEVER!
    Fab news that you're not experiencing too many nasty symptoms this time...maybe that means it'll be a girl! ;)
    XOXO
    http://squishygandme.blogspot.co.uk

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  14. I am so so excited for you! I had my two teens really close together {14mths apart} its hard work but you'll adapt with them all in your own way! Enjoy it, because it'll be marvellous!!! xxx

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  15. My goodness, what a shock that must have been. Huge congratulations. Sometimes things we don't expect are exactly what is meant to be.

    Good luck in the rest of your pregnancy. I look forwards to updates.

    xx

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  16. Congratulations to you all!
    I'm currently 16 weeks pregnant with our suprise 3rd baby. Although my boys are a bit older than yours, I still feel a bit nervous about having 3 under 4.
    Can't wait to follow your journey and hear the gender. X

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  17. Massive congratulations again, 3 is a fab number :-)
    Funnily enough I didn't feel the movements in my third pregnancy until the end. It's all very exciting. My age gap is a bit more than yours but I can say I found 3 easier than 2. I don't know why, maybe I just gave in more and accepted me, my house etc etc wouldn't be perfect for a while. I definitely relaxed more when she arrived, I lost all my anxiety and just enjoyed them being little for a while. Can't wait for the gender reveal, it's all too exciting xx

    P.S. My friend had 3 under 3 and while it was hard for a while now it's really nice. They're all into similar things so family days out are easier, they'll all be at the same primary school together for longer, all at secondary together etc etc xxxx

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  18. Oh I completely missed this! Congratulations! I can't give much advice as there is just under 2 years between mine, but I can fathom how you are feeling as I fell pregnant with a surprise when my eldest was 6 months old and I was terrified at the small age gap! (I had a mc though). Congratulations again, supermum! x

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